Sex positions are not a leaderboard. The right position is the one your bodies are built for, on the day you're having sex, with the energy you both have. That said, having a working vocabulary of positions — and knowing which toy turns each one from "fine" into "a thing we both remember" — is a real skill.
Twelve positions, grouped by what they're good for. Each one includes the toy pairing that makes it noticeably better.
Eye-contact, connection-first positions
1. Missionary
The default for a reason: full body contact, eye contact, easy kissing, partner can adjust depth and pace. The complaint is that clitoral contact is inconsistent.
Toy pairing: A vibrating cock ring. The clitoral nub sits exactly where you need it on the down-stroke, and the ring adds firmness on top. Shop vibrating cock rings.
2. Face-to-Face Sitting (Lotus)
One partner sits cross-legged or with legs extended; the other sits in their lap, facing them, legs wrapped around. Slow grinding rather than thrusting. Built for intimacy and prolonged sessions.
Toy pairing: A wearable couples vibrator like a U-shape that sits between you. Both partners feel it. Browse couples toys.
3. Spooning
Side-by-side, both facing the same direction. Lower-effort than almost any other position. Great for slow morning sex or when one or both partners are tired.
Toy pairing: A bullet vibrator the receiving partner holds against their clitoris. The angle of entry hits the G-spot naturally; the bullet covers what penetration alone misses. Shop bullets.
Depth and angle positions
4. Doggy Style
Receiving partner on hands and knees, entering partner behind. Deepest natural penetration of any common position. Best when the receiving partner controls the angle.
Toy pairing: A wand vibrator pressed under the receiving partner's clitoris during. Hands-free works with a strap or a pillow. See wand massagers.
5. Reverse Cowgirl
Receiver on top, facing the partner's feet. Great for G-spot angle. Less eye contact, more visual for the partner underneath.
Toy pairing: A small bullet vibrator or air-pulse toy on the clitoris during. The bottom partner has hands free to use it on their partner.
6. Cowgirl (Rider On Top)
Receiver on top, facing partner. Receiver controls speed and depth completely, which is why it's the highest-orgasm position in survey data for many vulva-having people.
Toy pairing: A clitoral suction toy used between you. The angle is perfect, hands stay free for support. Shop suction toys.
7. The Knot
Receiver lies on their back; partner kneels straddling one of their thighs, with the other leg hooked over the partner's shoulder. The bent body creates a tight, snug feel without changing depth.
Toy pairing: A small G-spot vibrator used on the receiver between thrusts. The angle of the position already targets the G-spot — the toy amplifies it.
Low-energy, anywhere positions
8. Side-by-Side Scissors
Both on your sides, legs interlaced. Works without much athletic effort, good for prolonged sessions, comfortable for pregnancy or back issues.
Toy pairing: A finger vibrator. Easy to use with the limited hand mobility this position allows. See finger vibrators.
9. The Lap Sit (Edge of Bed/Chair)
One partner sits at the edge of a bed or in a chair; the other sits on their lap facing them or facing away. Furniture does the work — nobody's holding their own weight.
Toy pairing: A panty vibrator with a remote control. The seated partner controls the remote; the receiving partner gets full surprise. Browse remote-control panty vibes.
Kink-friendly positions
10. Doggy with Restraints
Doggy style with the receiving partner's wrists in cuffs, restrained behind their back or to the bedframe. Limits movement, heightens every sensation, requires absolute trust and a safe word.
Toy pairing: A vibrating wand on the clitoris, used by the partner from behind. Start with our beginner BDSM kit if cuffs are new.
11. Reverse Spoon with Plug
Spooning, with the receiving partner wearing a small butt plug during vaginal sex. The plug adds fullness without a second partner needed. New to plugs? Read our starter guide.
Toy pairing: A weighted or vibrating plug from our non-vibrating or vibrating plug collections.
12. Strap-On Spoon
Spooning position, receiving partner penetrated by a strap-on. Works for any pairing of bodies; lower-effort than most strap-on positions.
Toy pairing: A harness-compatible silicone dildo and a comfortable harness. Browse our strap-on harness collection.
How to use this list
You don't need to try all 12. Pick the two that sound like the energy you'd have on a normal Tuesday. Pick a third that sounds like a stretch you'd attempt on a weekend. The toy pairing isn't a requirement — it's the upgrade that takes the position from "good" to "unforgettable."
Talk to your partner before you experiment, especially with the kink-adjacent positions. Establish a safe word if restraints are involved. Pay attention to which positions leave you breathing harder afterwards — those are the ones worth repeating.
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