June is Pride Month, and for the millions of LGBTQ+ adults shopping for toys, "inclusive" often gets reduced to a rainbow logo. This guide is the opposite: a practical, body-first look at how to shop for toys that work for any body, any partner configuration, and any way you have sex.
What "inclusive" actually means in toy design
Most adult toys were historically designed around two assumptions: a cisgender straight buyer, and a narrow set of bodies. The market has moved on. Today, a genuinely inclusive toy is one that:
- Stimulates anatomy directly, without assuming a partner's anatomy
- Uses body-safe materials that work across all skin types and orifices
- Has controls that are usable one-handed or with limited grip strength
- Is designed for the act, not the gender of the user — a prostate massager works for any body with a prostate; an external vibrator works for any body
- Comes in sizes that fit a wide range of bodies, not just the marketing-photo average
When you're shopping, ignore the gendered packaging and read the spec sheet. Insertable length, widest girth, motor location, materials, and waterproofing tell you whether a toy will work for you. The model on the box does not.
Toys that work for any body
A short list of categories that are functionally universal:
- External vibrators (bullets, wands, air-pulse). Stimulate external nerve endings — the clitoris, the perineum, the frenulum, the nipples. Works for any body. Start with a small rechargeable bullet from our vibrating toys collection.
- Anal toys with a flared base. The anus is the same across every body, and nerve density is high. Beginner plugs, anal beads, and prostate massagers all sit in the same category — what changes is depth and angle, not "who it's for." Browse anal toys or prostate massagers.
- Glass and steel dildos. Temperature play, weight, and a smooth surface make these popular across every demographic. The glass collection has body-safe options at most price points.
- Restraints, blindfolds, and sensory tools. Bondage gear isn't anatomy-dependent. A soft cuff or a blindfold works the same regardless of the body wearing it. See restraints and blindfolds.
Shopping for partnered play (any configuration)
Couples shopping is where gendered marketing fails the hardest. The good news: most "couples" toys are just toys, and they don't care about the configuration of the people using them. A few practical pointers:
- Two-person vibrators (worn during partnered sex) work whether one or both partners have a vulva — they stimulate external anatomy.
- Strap-ons and harnesses are now widely available in adjustable, body-neutral cuts. A jock-style harness fits a wider range of hips and torsos than a traditional brief style.
- Vibrating rings work on any erection, regardless of the wearer's gender. They also work as a vibrator pressed against any external anatomy.
- Anal play is anatomy-shared territory; the same plug or set of beads works for either partner.
For a deeper walkthrough, see our complete guide to couples sex toys.
Solo exploration — and rebuilding your relationship with your body
For a lot of queer adults, sex-toy shopping is part of a longer process of figuring out what their body actually likes, separate from what they were told it should like. Some practical advice:
- Start external. Even if you eventually want to explore internal play, an external vibrator is the lowest-pressure starting point.
- Don't skip lube. Lubricant is not optional, regardless of your anatomy. Our lubricant guide covers water-based vs. silicone vs. hybrid in detail.
- Trans- and nonbinary-affirming use: any toy can be used on any body part. A "clitoral" vibrator can be used on bottom growth; a "g-spot" toy can be used as a front-hole or anal toy. Read the spec sheet, not the marketing.
- Sensation, not goal. Especially if you're new to your body or to toys, treat the first few sessions as exploration. Orgasm is great when it happens — but it isn't the test.
Body-safe materials, full stop
Inclusive shopping also means insisting on body-safe materials — not because some bodies are more sensitive (everyone benefits), but because porous materials harbor bacteria, and you only get one of these bodies. Stick to:
- 100% medical-grade silicone
- Borosilicate glass
- Stainless steel
- ABS plastic (only on the non-insertable parts)
Avoid jelly, TPR/TPE blends, and unspecified "skin-safe" materials. If a product description doesn't list the material clearly, that's your answer. For cleaning by material, see our cleaning and storage guide.
Shopping the store: where to look
A quick map of relevant collections for an inclusive Pride Month shop:
- Vibrating toys — bullets, wands, air-pulse
- Anal toys — plugs, beads, training kits
- Prostate massagers — body-neutral category, despite the name
- Glass — temperature play, smooth feel, easy to clean
- Restraints and blindfolds — sensory gear that doesn't care who you are
- Lingerie — fit and cut matter more than the label on the tag
If this is your first toy, our 12 best sex toys for beginners (2026) is the lowest-pressure starting point.
A note on shipping and privacy
Every order ships in plain, unbranded packaging with a discreet sender name. There's nothing on the outside that indicates the contents. For anyone living in a household, dorm, or family situation where privacy matters — for any reason — that's the default, not an upgrade.
FAQ
Are "gendered" sex toys actually gendered?
Mostly no. Marketing categorizes toys by assumed buyer, but the toy itself stimulates anatomy. An external vibrator works on any body with nerve endings; an anal toy with a flared base works for anyone with an anus. Read the specs, not the box copy.
What's a good first toy for a trans or nonbinary buyer?
The same as for any first buyer: a small rechargeable bullet, an external air-pulse toy, or a small beginner anal plug. Materials matter (silicone, glass, steel), size matters (small to start), and lube is mandatory. Anything labeled "for women" or "for men" is using outdated marketing and can be ignored.
Can I use the same toy for different kinds of play?
Yes, with one rule: never move a toy from anal to vaginal use without changing condoms or thoroughly washing the toy first (cross-contamination risk). Otherwise, a silicone toy can move between external, internal, and partnered play freely. Wash with mild soap and water between uses.
Does the right lube depend on my body?
Water-based is the universal default and works for every body and every toy. Silicone lube lasts longer and is great for anal play, but should not be used on silicone toys. See our full lubricant guide for the rest.
How do I make sure a toy is body-safe?
Look for a clearly stated material: 100% medical-grade silicone, borosilicate glass, stainless steel, or ABS plastic on the handle and motor only. If the listing doesn't say, assume it isn't.
The bottom line
Inclusive shopping isn't about a rainbow sticker. It's about reading the spec sheet, ignoring the gender on the box, choosing body-safe materials, and giving yourself permission to want what you want. Pride Month is a good excuse to start — the principles work the other eleven months too.